Rehearsal Dinner Invitations

When couples start the process of ordering wedding invitations, they often ask about rehearsal dinner invitations. There are a couple different ways to handle these, depending on what works best for you and your guests.

Do I actually need to send rehearsal dinner invitations?

Well, yes – otherwise it leads to assumptions which might mean uninvited guests or worse, missing family members or friends. The dinner is typically done after the ceremony rehearsal and is often the night before the wedding. Traditionally, the rehearsal dinner is hosted (planned and paid for) by the groom’s parents, but in more modern times this has become fluid.

Who is invited?

Everyone who participates in the wedding rehearsal should be invited to the dinner, plus their partners. This includes the wedding party (bridesmaids, groomsmen, ushers), the officiant, and immediate family of the bride and groom to be.

Some couples choose to invite all out-of-town guests, but this is totally optional. It is a way to get the party started and I say, the more the merrier! However, if budget and/or space doesn’t allow a large guest count, provide your traveling guests with local dinner recommendations. This can be done by leaving a welcome note in each guest’s hotel room.

Mailing Rehearsal Dinner Invitations

Traditional etiquette states that the rehearsal dinner invitations should be mailed separately, and after, the wedding invitations. They can come from whomever is hosting and may or may not match the design of the other stationery. I always enjoy creating a rehearsal dinner invitation that complements the original design since these little details are what make your wedding special!

If you are mailing a separate card, the rehearsal dinner invitation should be sent about 3-4 weeks before the event date.

You can browse rehearsal dinner invitation designs here in my Etsy shop!

Including with Wedding Invitations

I always say rules are made to be broken – especially traditional wedding etiquette rules. I think understanding the etiquette is important, but it doesn’t mean every rule has to be followed. In an effort to save on paper, budget, and confusion some couples include an extra insert with their wedding invitation suite for the rehearsal invitation. It is printed on a smaller card, so only the most important details are listed. The insert is designed to match the rest of the wedding suite, but also provides an opportunity to do something different and fun!

Everything you need to know about rehearsal dinner invitations

What Information to Include

Speaking of what to include, the rehearsal dinner invitation should list all important logistics. The when and where are definitely included, along with the bride and groom’s names. Many times, the host is also named.

Feel free to get creative with wording! Some of my favorite rehearsal dinner invitations include titles like, “The Night Before”, “Love and Laughter before Happily Ever After” and of course, “Eat, Drink, and Be Married”.


If the venue or hosts need a headcount, make sure to include RSVP information on the rehearsal dinner invitation. Whether by phone, text, or email don’t forget to include the name of the person who is handling RSVPs and a deadline to reply!


Boho Wedding Invitations

Maybe it’s just because I moved to California, but everywhere I look I see more and more inspiration for boho, or bohemian, themed weddings. It’s likely not just my West Coast location, since Pinterest and Instagram are also full of boho wedding ideas from all over the country. Couples are loving this trend because it has a casual, fun feel and you can really take it in any direction to make it your own.

Boho weddings have a laid back and whimsical elements, which in my opinion is how a wedding should feel! Celebrating your love with family and friends is the ultimate goal and there’s no reason it can’t have a more relaxed vibe. It can be done in any season and has a wide variety of color palette options. I’ve seen beautiful boho weddings using everything from blues and pinks to more muted, neutral colors.

Since invitations are the first impression of the wedding day, and set the tone for the entire event, every boho wedding needs a boho invitation! Here are some of my favorites –

Blue and Gold Foil

I love this blue and gold foil invitation for a boho beach wedding. The watercolor encompasses the laid back vibe and can be customized to fit your own wedding colors! The gold foil glams up the look a bit and there are several options for different foil colors, including rose gold. These would also make perfect destination wedding invitations for any wedding by or on the water!

Blue Watercolor Wedding Invitation
Blue and Gold Wedding Invitation

Minimalist Modern Mix

Can you say that five times fast? The casual vibe of these “I’m not trying too hard, but I’m still a show stopper” invitations is truly perfect for what I envision as a modern boho wedding! A little bit a glam, a little bit of color, and a whole lotta white space. The rose gold invitation paired with the thermography printed, recycled kraft paper insert card and colored envelopes makes this simple design a statement piece.

Boho Blue Florals

I can’t talk about boho invitations without showing off a floral design. This suite has been one of my most popular in recent months and continues to hold strong. It really works for almost any season and has the fun, trendy vibe. Dress it up by adding foil or letterpress printing for the text!

Blue Floral Wedding Invitations
Blue Boho Floral Wedding Invitations

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Everything You Need to Know about Mailing Wedding Invitations

Your wedding invitations have arrived and it’s time to get them to your guests! Don’t let the process of mailing overwhelm you – this is the fun part! It’s time to let your people see that first glimpse of your big day and make sure they have all the details on how to get to your wedding. (And get ready for lots of compliments, because that paper is oh-so-pretty!)

When to Mail

This post goes into detail on the timeline around mailing your invitations. The short version of it is: For most weddings, mailing invitations 6-8 weeks prior to the big day is perfect. This timeline can adjust whether you did or didn’t send save the dates, have a lot of out of town guests, are doing a destination wedding, or saying I Do on a holiday weekend.

Where to Buy Postage

If you’re thinking, “I’ll buy my stamps at the post office, duh!” you’re definitely not wrong. However, I recommend ordering stamps online through USPS rather than hitting up your local post office or grocery store for a couple reasons. Mainly convenience – you can order any amount of stamps through and pay only $1.85 in shipping. No post office visit, no waiting in line! In my experience (yep, I’ve ordered a lot of stamps!) they usually arrive in about a week, give or take.

Another reason I always tell couples to order online is because it guarantees the availability of pretty stamps. You don’t want to ruin your gorgeous envelope with a stamp of a hippopotamus  because the local post office didn’t have enough (or any) pretty stamps. On second thought, hippopotamus stamps could actually be really cute… but you get the point. Depending on the time of year, stamp selection can be hit or miss but there’s usually some type of wedding or floral option available.

If you’re looking for something more unique, vintage stamps are always a win! I love buying vintage stamps on Etsy and Verde Studio is one of my favorite shops – you can even order by color palette, sure to add a gorgeous finishing detail to your invitation suite!

How Much Postage to Buy

Although I recommended skipping the post office for stamps, I do suggest making at least one visit there before mailing. Take one, fully assembled invitation suite to have them weigh it for you and give the final word on postage. In the past, I’ve had different post office locations give different decisions on postage which is why I encourage you to visit the actual location you’ll use for mailing.

If your invitation is under 1 oz, you can mail with the single forever stamp (which is $0.55 at the time of this post.) My “standard” invitation suite, with an insert card, should be under the mark, however as I mention – let your local USPS give you the final word! If you add double envelopes, a liner, upgraded paper, more than one insert card, ribbon, etc – there’s a good chance you’ll need a stamp for over one ounce. You can read more about the size and weight regulations from USPS here on their website.

Mailing Wedding Invitations: Everything you need to know before visiting the post office!

Mail an Invitation to Yourself

Before putting all your guests’ invitations in the mail, send one to yourself. Drop it at the same post office or mailbox you plan to mail the rest. Make sure it gets to you in a reasonable amount of time (no more than 3 days) and doesn’t have any issues – either with the postage amount or addressing. If USPS has a problem with delivery, there will be a note on the envelope. If it arrives without, you should be good to go! This is an easy way to confirm that your invitations will arrive to guests without issue.

Overall, it’s better safe than sorry – cause sorry would look like all your invitations being delivered back to you with an ugly note scratched across that beautiful envelope. Checking in with your local post office will allow any worry to be gone as you prepare to mail your pretty, pretty paper.

If you have any other tips for mailing wedding invitations, please share in the comments!


Why You Don’t Need the “Reserved Seats” Wording on your RSVP Card

The thought of uninvited guests showing up on your big day would turn any bridechilla into a bridezilla. Couples are going above and beyond to make sure guests are aware who is and who is not invited, but sometimes the method of delivery isn’t the best.

I’m often asked to add a line on wedding RSVP cards worded something like: “We have reserved ____ number of seats in your honor. Number attending ____.” The couple would pre-fill in the first blank prior to mailing in an effort to be extra clear on who is invited to bring a guest and/or their children.

Turn Off? Rude? Confusing?

The truth is, guests should know exactly who is invited by the way the envelope is addressed. I’m saying they should, not that they will. However, most will – so it’s important not to offend or confuse anyone by putting extra information on the RSVP card.

Instead? To solve your anxiety, but remain polite, add a space for guests to fill in how many will attend. This is traditional and I can’t imagine offensive in anyway. In the unlikely chance that someone fills in “2” when only one was invited, deal with the situation then.

Why you don't need the "Reserved Seats" wording on your wedding RSVP card

If it’s a close friend or family member of the bride or groom, I would casually reach out and let them know that the invitation was for one and you hope they’ll be able to make it alone. (I’ll write another post soon on whether to add “plus ones” or not for your single guests) If it’s an extended family member, coworker, or friend of your parents, and you don’t feel totally comfortable “confronting” them, have your wedding planner reach out.

Don’t get me wrong, this approach isn’t perfect either. There is a chance of an awkward conversation, but I find that to be pretty unlikely! By only having to communicate this with guests who aren’t clear on their invitation, you remove any chance of offending or confusing anyone else.

That being said, this is just my opinion and personal experience. At the end of the (wedding) day, you should do what works best for you and your guests! If you’re inviting a lot of people who you think will be confused with the amount allowed, then by all means – be explicit.

I will politely suggest etiquette to couples I work with on wedding invitations, but ultimately am happy to do whatever they decide. Wondering what other things to leave off your invitation? Read this post on common wedding invitation mistakes!


Fall Wedding Invitation Inspiration

It’s officially spring, which means it is time for fall couples to start choosing wedding invitations! Since invitations are mailed 6-8 weeks before the big day, I am now booking for weddings in September, October, and November and sharing some of my fall wedding invitation inspiration!

Read more about when to order and mail your invitations here.

This post is featuring my favorite designs for fall wedding invitations, but it might have been easier to just call it “burgundy wedding invitations”. Whether you call it crimson, scarlett, marsala, or burgundy – it’s the perfect color for fall weddings and I have some great invitations to match these themes! Keep scrolling to see these designs and at least one other, just in case you’re not on the burgundy train!

Burgundy Floral Boho Fall Wedding Invitations

This is the original fall-floral-marsala invitation design. I love the rich color paired with the soft watercolor florals. Want to see the pretty in person? You can order a sample right here!

Dusty Rose Floral Boho Wedding Invitations

If you haven’t noticed, I’m a big fan of floral wedding invitations! This design is perfect for a boho wedding of any season, but I really love it for a fall wedding. Originally paired with dusty rose envelopes, it can be customized to fit your wedding vibe!

Navy and Burgundy Floral Wedding Invitations San Diego

There’s no shortage of navy wedding ideas when it comes to fall weddings. For a navy and burgundy pairing, look no further! I love this design because both the sketched florals and fun fonts can be customized in any color – including foil!

Eucalyptus Monogram Wedding Invitations with kraft belly band
Eucalyptus Wedding Invitations with Straw Kraft Envelopes

The natural and rustic feel of this eucalyptus design was originally designed for a November wedding. It is such a good transitional feel for late fall to winter. We paired with the kraft envelopes and monogram belly band to elevate the overall look!

Comment below on which fall wedding inviation you’re loving most!

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How to Choose the RSVP Date for your Wedding Invitations

If you have no clue what to put for your “RSVP by” date, you’re not alone! It’s probably one of the most frequent questions I’m asked by couples I’m working with on invitations.

Choosing a Reply By Date for Your Wedding RSVP Cards

First things first, if you haven’t already – check out this blog post on when to order and when to mail your wedding invitations. Keeping with these timelines can help understand exactly when to set your reply date.

Ultimately, I recommend sending your invitations 6-8 weeks before the big day. I caution on sending too early, especially with a long window to RSVP, because people forget and things change – like addresses and relationship statuses.

When it comes to choosing a reply date for the RSVP card, there are a few things you can consider!

Venue Headcount Deadline

When does your venue need the final count on the number of attending guests? Usually it’s 2-3 weeks before the wedding date. I recommend asking for your RSVP card back earlier than their deadline so you have time to chase anyone down who forgot to respond. Unfortunately, it does happen.

Secondary List

In the case of having more guests RSVP “not attending” than expected, you might be able to send invitations to guests who were on your secondary list. Not every couple plans for this, but in this situation I recommend asking for RSVP replies with enough time to send (and get a response) from your secondary list guests.

Day of Stationery

Planning to order pieces for the wedding day like place cards, menus, programs, and welcome notes? You’ll want your guest list confirmed ahead of finalizing these. Since the design process for day of stationery usually begins a few weeks before the big day, asking for RSVPs back in time is very helpful to make sure you get the right quantities!

Check out this post for more information on day of stationery, when to start the process, and how many to order!


As with all things wedding invitations, there are always exceptions. If you’re having a destination wedding, holiday weekend wedding, or another unique circumstance, you might be sending out invitations earlier, which means you’ll likely set an earlier RSVP date.

In conclusion, an RSVP date of about four weeks before the wedding is usually a safe bet. It’s what I recommend to couples I work with on invitations who don’t have any super unique circumstances.

Some of my favorite RSVP cards to date!

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Wedding Day of Stationery: Programs and Menus and Place Cards, oh my!

You’ve mailed out your wedding invitations and it’s time to start thinking about “day of stationery”. If you’re wondering – what the heck is day of stationery, no fear. I use this phrase to refer to any of the paper or design pieces you’ll need for your actual wedding day. Think menus, programs, place cards, signage, and more.

There are a lot of questions that come along with ordering day of stationery:

  • Which pieces do I need?
  • How many of each piece should I order?
  • When do I need to order my day of stationery?
  • How much do these things cost?

I offer day of design pieces exclusively to couples I work with on invitations. I create menus, programs, place cards, and more to match and complement the wedding invitation design. Since I provide full service design I’m happy to share examples and advice when planning for these pieces. There are a few questions that most couples have as we start the day of stationery process!

Floral Wedding Ceremony Program

Ceremony Programs

Programs provide a couple uses for your guests: they give some information about the wedding party and families, something each guest may not know without it being explicitly listed. In warm weather, a program has a double purpose: fans!

Beyond listing the ceremony order, bridal party, and family, the wedding program can contain other information. I’ve had couples list an “unplugged request” (asking guests to put away phones and cameras – read more about unplugged ceremonies here!), fun facts about the couple, and a section to highlight names of loved ones who have passed in remembrance.

Number of Ceremony Programs Needed: 75-80% of your total guest count. Not everyone will pick them up, including the bridal party, but it is nice to have a few extra for keepsakes!

Typical Size of Ceremony Programs: 3.75×9.25, 5×7, or custom

Dinner Menus

If you’re having a plated meal at your reception, menus can be placed at each table setting for guests so they’ll know what to expect as dinner is served. I’ve also seen couples add thank you notes or song lyrics to their menus to make them even more personal.

With a buffet style dinner, it’s likely you don’t need menus for each guest, however you might want to use small signage for the buffet table to identify what is being served. Sometimes caterers provide this, but if not I’m happy to create!

Number of Dinner Menus needed for a Wedding Reception: One per adult guest.

Size of Dinner Menus: 3.75×9.25, 5×7, or Custom

I’m excited to announce I’m now offering circular menus in various sizes!

Wedding Reception Menu

Place Cards

If you have assigned tables with a seating chart, place cards can be at each table to indicate to each guest exactly where to sit. They’re also useful in the case of pre-chosen meals where servers need to know who receives what. Place cards can be flat or folded. Flat place cards work best if you don’t have a menu, since they’re placed on the table settings. Folded place cards stand up like a tent, making it each to identify where to sit.

If you have table assignments, but no seating chart, you’ll want to order escort cards for your wedding reception. Escort cards have the guest’s name and table number. They’re usually placed on a table (folded cards) or hanging from a display (flat cards). If needed, these can also contain the meal identifiers and have a dual purpose: telling guests where to sit and servers which meal goes where.

Number of Place Cards Needed: One per guest

Number of Escort Cards Needed: One per couple or family (assuming they’ll be seated at the same table)

Size of Flat of Folded Place/Escort Cards: 2×3.5, 2.5×3, or custom

Wedding Day Stationery Lavender Dinner Menu


Depending on the event, each couple will require different signage. Signage can tie the invitations and day of pieces together. Some most popular signage ideas for weddings:

Signs can be different sizes, but if they’re going in a photo frame are usually 5×7 or 8×10. With hashtag and bar/drink signs, you might want to order two but usually one of the remaining designs is sufficient!

Number of Signs Needed: Varies depending on logistics

Day of Stationery: Wedding Reception Table Numbers

When to Order Day of Stationery

I recommend starting the process for ordering these pieces about 5 weeks in advance. This gives you time to mail out your invitations and hopefully have some RSVPs returned. We can get started on the designs of each and finalize a quantity before sending to print based on your final guest count number. I recommend sending these pieces to print 3 weeks prior to your wedding date, but definitely no less than 2 weeks before in order to allow for time to print and ship to you.

How Much Does Day of Stationery Cost?

Costs for these pieces will vary greatly depending on the quantity ordered and finished size. Once you have a general estimate of your guest count and an idea for sizing, I’m happy to provide a personalized quote based on exactly what you need! Fill out my questionnaire here to get started!

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