So you’ve chosen to have an adult-only wedding. Whether it’s a cost concern, spacing issue, or just your preference – it doesn’t matter. Having no kids at your wedding is becoming increasingly popular for various reasons.

Couples are concerned about how to say “no kids” on the wedding invitations without offending anyone. This question comes up again and again, even during initial consultations with couples. 

No Kids Wedding Invitation Wording

It’s a Tricky Situation 

The Proper Way: Envelope Addressing

By the way the envelope is addressed, guests should know exactly who is, and who isn’t, invited to the wedding. This is also applicable for inviting “plus ones” – allowing single guests to bring a date. No children’s names listed means they’re not invited. No “and guest” means your friend should fly solo. (I met my boyfriend by attending a wedding solo and highly recommend it, just sayin!) 

That being said, not everyone knows and understands this rule of etiquette. The still polite workaround? Put a “number attending” line under the Accepts wording on the RSVP card. If someone puts a number higher than what they were allocated, reach out and let them know the situation. This is something a wedding planner or close relative can handle – so you don’t have to feel awkward. Read more about handling the number attending on your RSVP card here

Getting More Explicit

Out of your entire guest list, you might only have a small percentage of families with children and the above options work well. If you feel that a majority need clearer instructions (hey, you know your guests better than I do!) you can get a little more explicit.

Adult Only Reception

At the bottom of most invitations, there is some wording around the reception to follow. In the case of a no kids wedding, you can simply list “Adult Reception to Follow”. This gets the point across, however there could be some confusion on if children are invited to the ceremony only. It seems unlikely parents would bring their children to a ceremony knowing they weren’t invited to the reception, but hey – I’m sure it’s happened. 

Adult Reception to Follow

Wedding Website

Your wedding website is the perfect place to announce that your big day is child free, along with your other important wedding details. That being said, not everyone will visit your website so adding it somewhere within your wedding suite too isn’t a bad idea.

RSVP Card for Child Free Wedding

Along with the number attending line, there are a few ways to address your child free wedding on the RSVP card itself. Keep in mind people do send this back, but I think a statement like one of the below would be memorable for anyone considering bringing their little ones.

  • Although we love your children, this is an adult only event.
  • In order to allow all guests, including parents, a night of relaxation, we have chosen for our wedding to be an adult only occasion. We can’t wait to celebrate with you!
  • Due to space limitations, we’re celebrating with adults only.

Stay in the light hearted and positive mindset without just straight up saying NO KIDS, YO!

Modern Watercolor Wedding Invitations

Dealing with Backlash

I hope no one you’re inviting has an issue with your decision and/or your communication of it. If you feel like there’s someone who might really be hurt, reach out prior to mailing the invitations so they don’t feel blindsided by the announcement.

That being said, stand your ground for anyone who reacts negatively. It is the choice of you, your future husband or wife, and your families. Weddings are a time to celebrate your love and if you’ve chosen to do so without kids – that is your right.

Are you having a child free wedding? Let me know in the comments what made your decision! Check out this post for invitation wording on other sticky situations! 

19 Comments

19 Comments on “No Kids” Wedding Invitation Wording

  1. Daughter had a no kids wedding and reception. No one had any issues except for one person. And she was very vocal. As she is a relative, she made sure every other relative knew her thots. I was appalled. But as “weddings and funerals bring out the best in everyone” (meaning the worst), and as this relative wasn’t the bride, we did our best to blow it off. Daughter was hurt a little bit, but there were too many other things to concentrate on. This relative loudly announced that there was no way she would attend. So when the day of the wedding came, it was peaceful and fun. But there will always be someone who is upset. And the lesson learned was that you can’t please everyone. If you are the bride, do it your way!

    • Thank you for replying! That is awful, but it sounds like it turned out well that she didn’t attend. You definitely can’t please everyone and there are always going to be people who dislike your decisions. You just have to do what is best for you, your husband/wife to be, and the people who care about you most!

    • I was wondering this myself! We have four children that have to attend so feel awkward about not allowing anyone else to bring children.

      • For our wedding we are having both of our kids attend the ceremony and stay for part of the reception then they will be heading home with their nanny! I know they wouldn’t want to be out all day anyway it can be a little overwhelming for them as well!

    • Yes, absolutely! It’s your wedding, your rules. You can just address the envelopes to parents only, have a number attending line on the RSVP, and talk to anyone who puts a number above what you’ve invited!

  2. No, we invited children because a wedding isn’t a giant party. A wedding is communication that the 2 of you are bonded for the rest of your lives anc most likely will also have children. Chilxren ate an important part of the family anc community and should not be brushed aside. In fact, my cousin rounded all the children at her wedding , the formed a circle holding hands and danced to a special song. It was beautiful and the children and adults loved it. Unfortunately, in the US and other western nations children are considered a nuisance and don’t count in many celebrations. At holidays they have a kids table away from parents. I believe that children are an important part of family and friends and should be greated as such. If the wedding couple is concerned with the behavior and language of those guests that drink to excess, perhaps those are the ones who should stay home, because those are the actions of a very immature person. There always seems to be one or two of them at a wedding.

    • Hi Ivona,

      I am getting married in June & our wedding is “No children under 13”. I work as a teacher for elementary school as well as my MOH. We both know we cannot turn off “Teacher Mode”. I don’t even have a flower girl or ring bearer because the children I have in my life are too young (7 and 1 year) and would possibly cause a scene/cry during the ceremony. I would want to enjoy my time child free and not have to worry about any children running around and causing a muck. At least at 13 years old, it is not an extra cost for a “special children’s meal” of chicken nuggets and fries.

  3. We decided not to have any kids at our wedding besides our nieces and nephews. We wanted to fill up the venue with more friends and not use the space on kids. We were also worried about people not getting the message with how we addressed the invitations. We knew if they brought their kids we literally wouldn’t have room for them. So on the RSVP card we filled in a blank- “we’ve saved __ number of seats for you.”
    For the most part our guests were also excited to have a kid free evening.

    • I plan on doing the same! Future MIL has already added kids to her guest list TWICE after I said no kids besides nieces and nephews. It’s a stressful situation but I’m hoping to stand my ground (we are paying for it and agree I don’t want to invite less friends to include kids I have never met).

  4. My wedding is early next year and it is an Adult Only situation with the exception of my Niece & Nephew. My niece who is the flower girl & her brother are 2 of my favorite people in the world. My family knows how I am about them. His family may wonder why the 2 of them are invited & no other children. Honestly I’m not concerned with who’s bothered by it. Those people are more than welcome to not attend and stay home with their children.

  5. I want to have a kid free wedding, except my sister who is 5 and my cousin that I’ve lived with for a year, who is also 5, who are in the wedding. How do you word something like this on the website?

    • I am in the same boat. I don’t want an adult reception, but I also want my niece’s and nephews in my ceremony. I researched a little, and found this suggestion. I believe it is based on space/ budget. I just need to play around with the wording.

      “Unfortunately we are only able to accommodate the children in our wedding party at our reception.”

      • This is the way my daughter’s invitations will read .a separate note have been created . ❤️ With Respect ……in order to keep numbers to a minimum, we can only invite small number of children. We also thought you might like a night off.” I Hope this could help you

    • I plan on just putting “Adults Only” on my invitation, and then notifying the parents of the children who are invited that this does not pertain to them. We are only having 2 children (my 2 youngest cousins) at the wedding because I don’t have the money to accommodate all the children in my family. If people ask, I’m fine to explain that only my first cousins were invited and I had to draw the line somewhere 🤷🏻‍♀️ I think most people will understand

  6. How do I address to guests that we will only be allowing family only children at our wedding, of which there would be in total 6.

  7. A well detailed and handy article. Many thanks for sharing, it’s bound to help lots of folks out there.
    You always post helpful information, some
    of which I share on Facebook.

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