So you’ve chosen to have an adult-only wedding. Whether it’s a cost concern, spacing issue, or just your preference – it doesn’t matter. Having no kids at your wedding is becoming increasingly popular for various reasons.
Couples are concerned about how to say “no kids” on the wedding invitations without offending anyone. This question comes up again and again, even during initial consultations with couples.
It’s a Tricky Situation
The Proper Way: Envelope Addressing
By the way the envelope is addressed, guests should know exactly who is, and who isn’t, invited to the wedding. This is also applicable for inviting “plus ones” – allowing single guests to bring a date. No children’s names listed means they’re not invited. No “and guest” means your friend should fly solo. (I met my boyfriend by attending a wedding solo and highly recommend it, just sayin!)
That being said, not everyone knows and understands this rule of etiquette. The still polite workaround? Put a “number attending” line under the Accepts wording on the RSVP card. If someone puts a number higher than what they were allocated, reach out and let them know the situation. This is something a wedding planner or close relative can handle – so you don’t have to feel awkward. Read more about handling the number attending on your RSVP card here.
Getting More Explicit
Out of your entire guest list, you might only have a small percentage of families with children and the above options work well. If you feel that a majority need clearer instructions (hey, you know your guests better than I do!) you can get a little more explicit.
Adult Only Reception
At the bottom of most invitations, there is some wording around the reception to follow. In the case of a no kids wedding, you can simply list “Adult Reception to Follow”. This gets the point across, however there could be some confusion on if children are invited to the ceremony only. It seems unlikely parents would bring their children to a ceremony knowing they weren’t invited to the reception, but hey – I’m sure it’s happened.
Your wedding website is the perfect place to announce that your big day is child free, along with your other important wedding details. That being said, not everyone will visit your website so adding it somewhere within your wedding suite too isn’t a bad idea.
RSVP Card for Child Free Wedding
Along with the number attending line, there are a few ways to address your child free wedding on the RSVP card itself. Keep in mind people do send this back, but I think a statement like one of the below would be memorable for anyone considering bringing their little ones.
- Although we love your children, this is an adult only event.
- In order to allow all guests, including parents, a night of relaxation, we have chosen for our wedding to be an adult only occasion. We can’t wait to celebrate with you!
- Due to space limitations, we’re celebrating with adults only.
Stay in the light hearted and positive mindset without just straight up saying NO KIDS, YO!
Dealing with Backlash
I hope no one you’re inviting has an issue with your decision and/or your communication of it. If you feel like there’s someone who might really be hurt, reach out prior to mailing the invitations so they don’t feel blindsided by the announcement.
That being said, stand your ground for anyone who reacts negatively. It is the choice of you, your future husband or wife, and your families. Weddings are a time to celebrate your love and if you’ve chosen to do so without kids – that is your right.
Are you having a child free wedding? Let me know in the comments what made your decision! Check out this post for invitation wording on other sticky situations!