What Not to Include on Wedding Invitations

The formal “rules” and traditional etiquette when it comes to weddings can get overwhelming. Some of it is outdated and some is straight up contradictory. When it comes to wedding invitations and wording, you should really do what makes you feel most comfortable and makes sense for your event. However, there are a few mistakes that I feel should be avoided in any circumstance, traditional or not.


This applies to everything on the invitation other than “Mr. and Mrs.” in the case of including parent’s names as hosts. Dates, including the day and year, should be spelled out completely. Times shouldn’t be abbreviated or include “AM/PM”. The venue name shouldn’t be shortened and the street address, city, and state should be in their full form.

Zip code

For the love of all things pretty, please do not include the venue zip code on your wedding invitation. Zip codes are for mailing and should be listed on the envelopes only.

Information on back

All wording should be contained to the front side of the invitation. Consider adding an insert card if you have extra information for your guests.


It isn’t polite to include registry information on the wedding invitation or any of the accompanying insert cards. Even though it is expected for couples to create a wish list, putting that information with the invitations is considered a no-no.

The workaround? List your wedding website on the details insert, inviting guests to visit for more information. Have your registries linked there, along with other important specifics for your guests.

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Whether open bar, cash bar, or no alcohol at all, this detail should be left off of the invitations. Guests will find this out at the reception and shouldn’t influence their decision to attend your wedding.

If we work together to create your wedding invitations, I will gently guide you away from making any of these mistakes. However, the ultimate decision will be totally up to you!

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Wedding Invitation Mistakes: What Not to Include in Your Invitation Wording

Now that you know what not to include, check out my wording guide to get some inspiration and view wedding invitation examples done the right way!


8 Comments on What Not to Include on Wedding Invitations

  1. Agreed for the most part, however sites like Shutterfly, Minted etc. have pre-set wording and a lot of invitations now use a more “modern” way of noting the date and time to include “am” or “pm”. The date is written as “May 31st, 2021”. I don’t see anything wrong with it, especially for more concise invites….

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